Sex Toys

A good toy is not simply limited to objects that you stick into a variety of orifices. Neither are they meant to replace good performance, sex toys should be the perfect add-on to a great sexual relationship. They are about enrichment rather than replacement. Ideally they should increase creativity and reduce monotony.

The kinkier and more Lewd, the more fun in my opinion. Sometimes I like a little shock value when I introduce a new one to a lady. Most of my favorites are typically thought of as items for use in a Dom/sub relationship, but I think a lot of them can be used for fun even with people not necessarily into that culture.

So here is a collection of some of my favorite items:

Handcuffs - Whether to a headboard, or a pole in the basement, or just behind her back, restraining a woman's wrists gives me great pleasure. I like taking away the sense of control from them to allow them to fully give into their sexual gratification. I personally prefer behind the back as my favorite place to bind her wrists. Still allows for quite a bit of freedom of movement while taking away her ability to maneuver herself and direct any action.



Butt Plugs - There is a ridiculous amount or nerve endings in a woman's anus, almost like it was built to receive a stimulus. Even with women that try an anal plug for the first time, all have always told me they orgasm harder from the full feeling in their ass. I just love the look of a toy lodged in a delicious rectum. I also have to say if I'm penetrating a woman who is wearing one, I can actually feel the additional tightness from her ass being toy stuffed. I had one girl that loved wearing one during they work day at my request. I have one with a pig tail end currently, and would like to have a horse tail plug as well.







Spreader Bars - The purpose being that it allows easy access to your partner's vagina or ass, since spreader bar keeps their legs pulled apart. No way a woman can attempt to close off her private areas while one of these is strapped on. I find it lends further excitement to a helpless feeling of relinquishing control to her black bull. Some of my favorite models of the bar include a strap to fasten wrists to it as well as ankles, putting a woman in a very venerable and almost 'doggie style' state of readiness.







Pussy Pumps - It's basically a small vacuum pump that goes over the vulva and sucks air out, encouraging blood flow to the genitals. Most women report increased sensitivity, and men report increased tightness. I love seeing the face of a woman as we engorge the tissue of her pussy. It's usually a new feeling for most and one hell of a creative method of foreplay.







Collars - It's just visually appealing to me to see a woman neck adorned by a symbol of submission. I typically like to use the types that allow a chain to be fastened to the front. Its nice to be holding a lead that's is connected to a woman's throat to lead her about. Not to mention, it just looks tarty and whorish to see a woman wearing one. Some of the most interesting ones have text on them that proclaim an open sexuality about the lady wearing it. Those are fun to personally fasten on a females neck.











Anal Beads - Yet another great way to have fun with a woman's rear end. One of the coolest things is seeing them disappear inside a delicious rump. The best results I've always noticed from a woman who's enjoying them, is to withdraw them from her tight sphincter as she is cumming.





Nipple clamps - Quite possible one of my favorite things to touch on a white wife, her nipples. Clamps are a fun way of being a litter rough on such a sensitive area than she may be accustomed to. On the pair I own, the tips are coated with latex, so they provide a certain measure of comfort, but also a nice tight squeeze to a delectable tit. A lot of models have a chain connecting the clamp from breast to breast, I just love the way those look. The most obvious fun is to tug or pull on the chain, increasing the pressure on her nipples.







Mouth Gags - The idea isn't just keeping your partner silent, but something about squealing and moaning being a bit muffled by one is candy for the ears. Ball gags offer a real interesting look and offer the wearer something to clamp onto. Bit gags look great while a woman's teeth and lips are stretched around one. I prefer however an open mouth gag (I own two), it allows for more creativity as to what can be placed inside her mouth while affixed to her head.









Black Dildo - Never underestimate the fun that can be had with an additional phallus. I've been known to buy one for girls I date, especially wives. I'll send her home with one knowing she can masturbate with a cock colored very differently from hubby's. While using one with her, I can achieve penetration of two of her available holes, or watch her use it on herself. A very good tool to keep handy to use on black cock sluts.







Sex Swing - I imagine the plethora of positions that myself and a partner can engage in during use. Swings can helps get gravity out of the way for freedom during sex play. From the doggy to upright missionary to cowgirl, the swing will make things comfortable, bouncy and fun. Even oral stimulation (no matter which partner gives or receives) will get a new feel and flavor when a swing is included. My favorite has restraints built in to secure wrists and ankles once she is hoisted up.



Lubes - Simple part of play, but very important for the comfort of all involved. Having a wet and ready orifice is essential to good erotic play. I ALWAYS have a bottle handy to keep the action going. Water-based lubes tend to be my favorite, they are safe to use with condoms for those that insist on rubbers. Plus they are fun to apply to a white cunt, and a glistening and wet pussy just looks too tempting not to plunge into.



Never a bad idea to mix it up and keep it fresh with a few naughty toys.

ANAL

Men love women’s asses, its pure and simple. Were always checking them out on women in public, and admiring the naked one’s we’re lucky enough to see. It only makes sense that most men have a fetish for anal sex, this man included. Though I completely understand that not every woman enjoys it, I certainly like introducing women to it that have not been down that ‘path’ before.



Anal sex can be much more intimate than vaginal sex. It takes a woman trusting us enough to let us inside a very sensitive part of her body. To a fair amount of women yet, they have difficulty considering it as the taboo scares some from attempting. But I’ve always enjoyed helping a woman learn to relish in the taboo and naughty side of sex.



For some men, getting a woman to take a dick in her ass is the Mt. Everest, the golden ticket of sexual conquest. I’m sure a lot of women feel pressured into thinking most men see it as a sexual requirement. For myself however, I’ve always had difficulty with my size being both a frightening turn off to some, and just not mechanically possible with others. It’s never been an absolute must in my book, for some it just doesn’t work out. I’ve learned to appreciate a woman’s ass in other ways if anal sex becomes an issue. For some of the smaller women I’ve dated and fucked, we’ve learned to thoroughly enjoy the use of fingers, a tongue, even a variety of toys introduced to her sphincter. I’ve had one hell of a time trying to worm my tongue deep inside a woman’s butt for sure. If your persistent and creative enough you can still appreciate playing with an asshole in numerous other ways. I can’t tell you how much I enjoy using a black but plug on some women that are opposed to full anal.





That may be a good reason why I’m heavily attracted to thicker women. Most BBW’s have the necessary extra padding and size to appreciate and enjoy a black dick in their rectum. To be honest, I’ve never had a heavier woman turn down playing with their butt.



The reasons for men to love anal are numerous. It gives us a sense of power and control in bed. If your allowing us inside such an off limits place, it is very empowering to men. We feel as though we are the alpha male who has conquered you sexually. As well, you put your sexual satisfaction and experience (or perhaps, lack thereof) in our hands. Something about anal sex just feels good to take a part of a woman’s body that isn’t always freely given. Perhaps it’s the taboo, maybe just the feeling that its so tight back there as well. I’ve always enjoyed bringing into a couples routine as a fresh idea when vaginal sex becomes the routine. For women experiencing it for the first several times, it’s something kinky and new and helps to broaden their sexual expression. And I always enjoy the look on their face while hitting spots women never knew existed.



Personally I find it very erotic to watch the head of my black cock slip just inside a white woman’s asshole. It’s very aesthetically pleasing to see her tight butt open up to accept my cock. And I love feeling like shes become a slut at a new level for me as well, like she's been debased to a sexual being for me and all her holes are available.



I love when a woman has accepted anal sex as a form of expression of their sexuality, Its both a little whorish and highly erotic to see a woman enjoy both of her holes being filled. I’ve seen some of the most thunderous orgasms in women come from a anal sex with a combined stimulation of her clitoris. Game to try it with me………?

Creampie

Oh do I just love the look of a sloppy pussy after its been well used. Something about seeing a white cunt drip with cum just screams SLUT! Love using a white pussy bareback, and love a slutty white woman who will let a BBC cum in her cunt unprotected. Here are a few of my favorite pictures I've collected from the web on the subject.

DISCLAIMER

My ideas of interracial play do not always necessitate that you be a cuckold or desire to be one. Nor do you women have to be BBW and submissive to please me.

I appreciate ALL persons into the interracial swinging lifestyle. I of course have some specific fetishes of my own within the entire scene, but please don't feel that these kinks must come out EVERY time I play with a couple. I respect that each of us has a different situation, and different likes and dislikes ourselves.

Sadly, a lot of material out there on the black man white woman sexual scene suggests that white men must be cuckold and submissive. I do enjoy playing to that mindset for those boyfriends and husbands that like to think that way (and I love it). But it's not a must in every case that men who like to see their woman enjoy a BBC, be a cuck. Please don't feel pressured to fit the mold, or that I put you into the category if it doesn't suit you.

I've played heavy in the submissive and humiliation scene before, and I certainly enjoy it. I do however realize its not for everyone, and I don't always need to include that or any element of fetish into sexual activity. Humiliation play can be about helping women to embrace their own bodies rather that the typical societal view of what a woman's figure should be. I like women who are able to see themselves as a sexual creature in spite of what we're told through magazines and TV.

Truly I'm all about respect, that's number one within my life. My motto is: "Treat a woman like a lady in the living room, and like a slut in the bedroom."

If I come off aggressive and cocky to you, I apologize. I never mean to offend, but I do have a forward attitude and am very open with my thoughts on sex. I like to think I represent a break from what a loving husband has to offer in the bedroom. I bring raw, assertive, and sometimes rough fun to the mattress. I'm never shy and don't beat around the bush as to what I enjoy.

I thoroughly enjoy joining married couples in their bedroom and introducing them to new obscene fetish if they seem open to it. Nothing pleases me more than seeing women explore their sexuality through expanding their boundaries. Of course with each person that can mean a different thing and at a different pace. But it should always be exciting and fun. It seems I'm approached often with: "I like this on your blog, but not that", and I certainly appreciate the feedback. Please don't assume I'm only into only one thing or one one track, I'm VERY open to all sorts of erotic fun and love trying new things out myself.



My goal is to make friends with people from all different walks of life and with all sorts of thoughts as to whats sexy. In the end it's all about open communication. Our individual tastes and interests is what makes it exciting to meet one another. And if some kinks and fetishes rub off on each other, so be it.

Spanking

I don't typically enjoy anything sexual that invokes pain, but man to I love to give a white woman a swat on her ass now and then. Doesn't have to be terribly hard to be fun, the point isn't always to turn her skin red from constant abuse. I just like to see the plump flesh of a hot ass jiggle around as i give it a smack now and again. I've always found that slapping a booty tells a woman she is desired, and that I'm not planning to be a timid in bed whatsoever.



I find Spanking incites the feeling of surrender and submission women CRAVE, as many women need to give up control and give themselves "permission" to feel sexual.
The suspense of asking her to bend over when she knows i want to give her ass a good hit, accomplishes the subtle humiliation that states I'm in charge. I want a woman to feel submissive and vulnerable and some good attention to an attractive bottom supplies just that.



The most fun can be when it's done as a surprise to a woman's rear end. When she has no idea a slap to her butt is coming is usually when the oohhh's and aahhhh's come out. After beginning with a few irregularly timed, and unanticipated swats.... she has no idea when the next wallop might fall and it's more effective in increasing her arousal.



In between a few spanks, i like to give other attention to her ass by playing with her bottom in a more caressing way, and squeezing and testing its firmness and fullness. Meanwhile telling her what I'm going to do to her bottom, and how its shape and size please me on so many levels. Then throw another sting to her ass, after deeply massaging her white butt's fatty flesh.



Some women DO love it rough I've found. They feel the need to be punished, wanting it to hurt and sting. I believe some want to be disciplined, scolded, and cleansed in a sense. Happy to make it about a little sadomasochistic pleasure for those that crave it, but I rather just enjoy the feeling of power and control I have from just putting her into the predicament of being bent over & spanked.



Usually it's not a high number of spanks or how hard they are that brings women to a wet state of sexual readiness. Rather, it's a combination of the loud and erotic clapping sound against her butt, and how deeply she feels her submissive helplessness, and the total sexual stimulation of her bottom. Done right it tells a woman she is wanted, desirable, and viewed as a sexual object, that is the key to working over a white wife's ass!



Some white women's asses are just begging for attention!

Long Distance Sexual Relationship

Maybe it's me, but every swinger I meet or every couple interested in pursuing further into the interracial lifestyle never seems to be located no where near me. Sure It's a generalization, but they all seem to be in California, Florida, One of the northeast states, and especially in Pennsylvania... Perhaps I ought to move to PA, hmmmmm?



I have traveled often to meet various couples, so distance isn't so much an issue. With my family and friends literally scattered around the country, I actually enjoy getting out of town to visit interested people. Probably safer to get out away from my immediate area to play also. Now I'd prefer a steady relationship with a local married woman, but that doesn't always work out that interested people are close by. There ARE ways to bond with married couples living thousands of miles away. Just because of the distance, that doesn't necessarily mean that you cant get to know people better, and even have a bit of sexual fun together despite the long reach.



Nasty talk through e-mails and a bit of phone sex are always a good time with far off friends. I've had a wonderful time with men and their women discussing mutual fantasies and fetishes over web-cams, long phone calls, and detailed explanations in e-mail. Unfortunately most people stop there, that becomes the extent of their friendship. Everyone has good intentions and hopes they meet up someday and somehow. In reality however it never pans out for the most part.

I have other ways to keep up erotic fun with friends from out of state. With several couples that expressed their first interest in the interracial lifestyle and cuckolding I've turned them on to something a bit different. It began with one husband that asked me to send him a pair of boxers I had. I had commented that the front of my underwear had fresh cum stains from looking at pictures of his wife. He thought it would be hot to show her the exact pair I was wearing as we discussed getting her blacked for the first time. Her seeing first hand how she made a NASTY black man like myself hard and wet at the thought of using her sexually was a turn on for both of us. So I kept my word and in fact mailed the black pair of jockey boxer briefs with obvious semen stains on the front to him. He later surprised her with the 'gift' and all went as planned. She loved the nasty thought behind it and told me later that she just wore them around the house as she got ready for bed one night to tease her husband. I was glad I could help with their fantasy role play, and help them test the waters about exploring the rest of the lifestyle further.

Since, I've made it a suggestion to other couples looking to try something different. I met a woman from Texas who wanted to play into her husbands desire to see her go black. She was hesitant to meet anyone in person and only wanted to discuss fantasies about being creampied by BBC with anonymous people online. I told her to send me a pair of her panties, worn of course, an I'd mail them back to her with a surprise. Of course I used the crotch of her panties as a cum rag and emptied a load into them before I zip locked them and returned them to their owner. I got off on thinking about her opening them and smelling the stank of another mans sperm on her own panties. I certainly hope she wore them around after she got them back, I liked imagining my expired load in the fabric of her undies sitting right against the flesh of her married pussy. I really would have liked to have seen a picture of that!

Since, I have propositioned sending lingerie to wives as a gift, even offered my expertise on sex toys I think couples would benefit from. I've been asked to use a clone a willy kit if it were sent to me to mail back for wifey's use. Though I have not yet, I've even discussed mailing my semen to interested people. Lots of kinky ideas out there yet to be explored with long distance friends.